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Is it appropriate to give flight attendants a gift?

Flight attendants are allowed to receive small gifts from passengers, and there are no hard and fast rules to doing so, other than not to put you both in an uncomfortable situation: Cash bribe attempts at an upgrade, for example, simply won't fly (pun intended).



Yes, it is generally appropriate and appreciated to give flight attendants a small gift, though it’s not expected. It’s a kind gesture that can brighten their long and often demanding workday.

Here’s a guide to doing it thoughtfully:

Appropriate Gifts (Best Choices)

  • Individually wrapped chocolates or premium candies (e.g., Ferrero Rocher, Godiva, local specialties from your departure city).
  • Gift cards to coffee shops (like Starbucks) that are common in airports worldwide.
  • Small packs of gourmet cookies or snacks that are sealed.
  • A heartfelt thank-you note alone or attached to a small treat. A specific compliment means a lot.
  • A new, sealed pen (they are always losing theirs!).

How to Present the Gift

  1. Keep it simple and sealed. Hand a small bag or box to the lead flight attendant (purser) upon boarding and say, “This is a little thank you for the crew.” This allows them to share it easily.
  2. Be discreet. Don’t make a big show; a quiet hand-off is best.
  3. Timing is key. The best time is during boarding when they are less busy.

What to Avoid

  • Homemade, unpackaged food (for safety and security reasons).
  • Alcohol.
  • Perfume or lotions (many people have allergies or sensitivities).
  • Anything overly personal, expensive, or bulky.
  • Cash or tips (this is a grey area; while

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